Sharing your story and your feelings, thoughts, and experiences.
After about a month of going through some of my worst depression, I decided to try sharing my situation and story with people, because I knew that it was important to share. But instead of sharing just the basics of what was going on with people I was comfortable with, I shared basically everything with anyone who asked. It ended up causing my depression to worsen because I shared everything with people who I didn’t know and who didn’t understand depression. Some said hurtful things (although they often didn’t understand it was) and it was a really damaging thing for me. As I’ve experienced sharing more often and learning for myself what is good and what isn’t, I’ve gotten a lot closer to reaching a point of knowing exactly how to share everything comfortably. I’m definitely not there yet, but I’m working on it.
As I’ve been writing different articles for the site I’ve struggled to get myself to post them, because many of them were too personal and I wasn’t truly ready to share them yet. I’ve felt pressure to share articles often because it’s important to me that we are constantly releasing new material that can help people. But some of the things I’ve tried to get myself to share haven’t been fully tried and tested in my personal life so I wasn’t comfortable sharing them with others yet, although they did seem to be helping me. And with other articles that I tried to get myself to release, it was simply too personal to let it out yet. I just need a little more time to appreciate it for myself and fully understand my feelings for the stories and situations. So, if I am slow to write articles in the future, just know that I am always working on one, it’s just sometimes difficult for me to let myself share things that I’m not 100% confident in.
So finally I realized that I need to make sure that everyone knows that if they want to share, to please share with us only to your comfort level. Share what you feel can help but make sure that you aren’t saying something that you aren’t ready for people to hear, particularly people you don’t know. If you aren’t ready to share, then don’t. It’s more important to us that you maintain your own mental health. That’s what is most important. If you don’t know that your story is going to help or if you don’t know if you’re sharing too much, email James or me and we will talk to you and help you to make sure you share comfortable, helpful stories. I promise that there is no judgement and that we will be as helpful as we possibly can.
So in closing, here are somethings that I would recommend that you work on to help with sharing in your personal life.
1. Find someone who you are comfortable to share everything, or most everything with. It is important that you have someone who you can come clean with about how you are feeling and the thoughts you are having. It is especially important to go to this person or people when you are having your worst struggles. When searching for this person, be patient, and be sure of who you find. There are more good people in this world than I think many people realize, and I promise there is always someone who can help you.
2. Try to share more and more,(but slowly). One thing I’ve learned is that sharing even my smallest and insignificant experiences with others can help them, as people realize that there are other people in this world who go through the same thing as they do and who truly understand.
3. If someone says something that hurts you, especially after having shared personal experiences with them, do your best to forgive them. 99% of the time, they simply do not understand what you are going through as they have not experienced depression in their lives or in the lives of people they care about, and they also did not mean to be hurtful with the words they say. They simply made a mistake because they don’t understand. They’re human. And honestly, I truly believe that people are much kinder that we often believe.
I hope that this article helped at least a little bit. And I hope that you guys will be able to share. If you aren’t ready too or comfortable, then you simply don’t need to worry about it. If James or I ask you to share, and you don’t feel like you can, then let us know. I promise we will understand.